Certainly no man or woman in Pennsylvania gets married with the hope or thought that they might someday get divorced. The disappointment and heartache that can accompany the end of a marriage is reasonable and to be expected. However, that does not mean that you have to let your divorce become an emotionally disturbing event for you or for your children. There are things you can do to support positive emotional health and relationships for all of you during this type of transition.
The American Psychological Association recommends that divorcing spouses stay connected to extended family and friends as social outlets and connections are important to your well-being. These people can also provide valuable support and stability for your children.
When it comes to your kids, it is important for you to support their ongoing and strong relationship with not just you but with your former spouse as well. If you and the other parent are willing and able, talking to your kids together about important decisions or schedules can send a powerful message that you two remain a united front in raising your kids. You should avoid criticizing your former spouse in front of your kids and never make your kids be the messengers between the two of you. Knowing when to take conversations offline and out of the earshot of your kids can go a long way toward keeping them supported.
This information is not intended to provide legal advice but is instead meant to give divorcing parents in Pennsylvania some tips on how they can approach their divorce in an emotionally healthy way for themselves and their children.