You may have put so much time and focus into your divorce that you did not consider life after the legal end to your marriage. What should you do next? How do you rebuild your life? Will things get better? These are only a few of the questions you may have.
The good news is that divorce is not a final destination, but the beginning of your journey to a new life. Take these steps to create a healthy, happy post-divorce life.
Go to therapy
As wonderful as your family and friends may be, you also need a professional support system. A therapist can help you deal with the emotional aspects of divorce, co-parenting and dating. You can gain insight and healing that will help your current and future relationships, including with yourself.
Engage in self-care
Self-care is the healthy alternative to drastic makeovers and reinvention to make your ex jealous or try to raise your self-esteem. Better choices for managing depression, stress and lack of confidence include:
- Practicing self-compassion
- Eating healthy food
- Creating art
These activities will lift your mood, help you find your true self and teach you healthy and effective coping skills.
Rebuild your finances
Even the most amicable of divorces still costs money and has long-term financial effects. Review the state of your finances and related accounts, such as insurance policies and estate plans. Make applicable updates to these accounts. Create a sustainable budget based on your new income and any support you receive or pay. Work on paying off debts, improving your credit and securing your financial future. You may want to consult a certified divorce financial planner for help in this stage.
Stay on top of modifications
Divorce will not be the only change that will happen in your life. You may get a new job, marry again, have more children or move to a new city. These life changes will impact the terms of your support and child custody. Seeking immediate modifications to the divorce order can protect you and your family during these times.